Why You Don't Need To Be Female To Heal Your Feminine Energy

This article discusses the conflict between an energy and modern language that has not yet caught up with newer gender descriptions, and is not a judgement or direction upon how others should be or act.

Quick Fire Summary....

• We All Have Feminine Energy: Feminine energy isn’t tied to gender, it’s an essential part of the human experience. All humans carry feminine and masculine energies (human words to describe attributes and qualities of energy), and we all need our energy to be balanced for inner harmony.

• Healing the Feminine Energy: Healing feminine energy is about nurturing, creativity, intuition, and emotional expression—qualities everyone can embody, regardless of gender.

• Inner Union: Achieving inner union requires balancing both the masculine and feminine energies within ourselves, which transcends biological gender.

Now let's get in the weeds.

While I often mention women in reference to the feminine, I do so to acknowledge the lived experiences of those who identify with the feminine. However, these wounds are not limited to those born or gendered female.

When I talk about "women," I refer to the souls who have chosen to embody the feminine energy in their human experience. These souls encounter the lessons of the feminine wounds in order to heal them and integrate the healed masculine, becoming whole.

Equally, those souls who choose to embody the masculine energy are on a journey of their own, one that involves healing the masculine wounds and integrating their healed feminine energy. To achieve true inner union, we must heal both the wounded feminine and the wounded masculine within us and allow ourselves to bring in and integrate with the healed versions of ourselves.

This isn’t about gender or external identity, it’s about the energetic alchemy of becoming whole.

I absolutely advocate inclusivity and equality and in no way do I want to alienate anyone who doesn't identify with the words of masculine and feminine.

The Power and Role of Words and Labels

Be aware that using specific words that denote specific attributes, helps us to conceive of and understand both the nuances and the miles between the different and myriad aspects of our energetic selves. Otherwise when we go abstract, like the soul is by nature, we can lose the ability to hone in on what areas of our inner world need to be looked at.

Words and labels become tools to make sense of where we are at on the scale of consciousness integration.

My opinion is that until the collective, and I mean the general human collective (and parts of the 'evolved' conscious collective), get up to speed with the basics of what human-ness and acceptance looks like, it's necessary to use words that define the way things have been, in order to move to a new paradigm where there is no need to define humans by gender or alternative identities.

We won't just be part of One. We will BE One.

When we adopt new words into language, not everyone is able to integrate it into their daily word basket, either because their brains can't make the connections needed in order to sustain the learning, perhaps because of age, habits or culture. That's not to say resistance isn't at play, of course.

We are moving closer to an evolved age when what we look like, how we dress, identify or describe ourselves by is holding less conflict, but as an entire human race, we are far from that day in 2024, at least in my millennial generation anyway. I believe the teachings within gender polarity therefore still has it's place in this age, so we can continue to move closer to unity and wholeness as a species.

If you're still reading this and you're still not vibing with the idea of feminine or masculine inner healing, then this isn't your rodeo and perhaps not something your soul is calling you to heal.

I celebrate you on your already intregrated wholeness.

My Default Mode Energy Was Masculine

My experience of healing my feminine energy started out with realising that I am very very familiar with masculine energy, in fact it was my default mode.

I lived almost exclusively from my masculine energy for years, up until I was 35 years old. I never thought that I needed to consider feminine energy in my life because I was the most un-girly grown up woman I knew.

Growing up as the only girl in the family, I looked up to and admired my two brothers so much that when I was eight years old I demanded that my parents give me a buzz cut! Mostly to not deal with my ginormous 80s unruly afro that people would laugh at - I get it, I had a blocky square fro for bloody ages - IYKYK. But more than anything I didn't want to be a smelly floppy girl!

I was a tom boy through and through. I hung out with a gang of neighbourhood boys in hedgerow ditches, BMX courses, clambered up trees and waded knees deep in muddy rivers. In my mind and my experience, I felt like a boy on the inside so why on earth should I be lumped in with the fragile girlies, frolicking among the butterflies getting gooey eyed over plastic pearls and barbies?

I felt triumphant when strangers commented to my mother on how she had raised three lovely boys!

As an adult, I was totally shut off from and suppressed my emotions, I couldn't express my deepest truths, I rejected my intuition in favour of rationality and logic, and I neglected my personal sovereignty in order to care for someone else's experience.

Prior to my awakening I NEVER even thought about trying to be more feminine. However awakening invited me to become emotionally open, to travel to the depths of my heart, to heal the aspects of me that had never been acknowledged, to live from my heart and allow my soul to navigate my experiences.

The thing with spiritual awakening is that we are asked to review all of the things in our lives that require both inner and outer healing, in order that we move towards a more ascended and unified state of being and to raise our consciousness to that of our evolved and infinite soul, all while still in the body.

When I had my spiritual awakening, I was shown by my spirit guides how to develop and integrate my feminine energy in order to move in the direction of wholeness. This is the process of enlightenment.

This is because in order to open and receive divine energy into the heart, we must be firstly receptive, but also be able to expand and move heart energy (otherwise known as love) back into the Universal field of consciousness. This dynamism and expansion is intrinsic to the feminine principles.

From The Soul’s Perspective

Healing happens when we integrate the polarities or extremities of a pole within us. Notice that I didn't say irradicate. Integrate means to accept, to allow, to be content with, to know, to merge.

We each carry both masculine and feminine energies, and when these energies are in conflict, when they act as opposing forces, presenting in our experience as inner turmoil, imbalance, and disconnection. T

he key to healing is bringing these energies into harmony, where they no longer fight for dominance, but coexist in complementary balance.

Let’s use music to explain this process.

Harmony In Waves

Harmony in music occurs when different notes and frequencies align with the other notes and frequencies.

The notes don’t have to be the same; in fact, they often work best when they are in contrast, creating a rich, balanced sound. When notes are played in opposition but complement one another, they create something beautiful, that is an integrated and harmonious song.

On the other hand, when those same notes clash, when they are in conflict, they create chaos, confusion, and disharmony. Imagine trying to listen to a piece where the low thudding bass overpowers the softer high notes, or where the sharps and flats are played together, creating a discordant sound.

Discord = lack of harmony or disagreement

Now, think of your inner world as an orchestra.

Without a conductor, without alignment, it can feel like chaos. Like a room full of four-year-olds banging away on the drums because they don’t yet know how to play a flute. The energies inside you might be in conflict, each one trying to dominate, each note jarring against the other.

This inner conflict is what happens when the wounded masculine and wounded feminine are at odds, creating discord within your emotional and energetic body.

Healing is the process of learning how to BE the conductor of your own orchestra, bringing the wounded masculine and feminine into balance so that each energy complements the other.

This is the alchemy of creating inner union, where you are no longer fighting yourself but allowing each energy to express its unique qualities in a harmonious, balanced way.

Healing the out-of-key notes and integrating them into the song of your life creates a masterpiece of energetic union, a symphony where both the masculine and feminine are in alignment, working together to bring you into wholeness.

My personal opinion is that those who no longer identify with masculine or feminine and those who get triggered by the use of these words (because they are too limiting as words to describe humans these days), are perhaps moving more towards a unified version of themselves, therefore removing the internal conflicts of who they are.

Through the teachings I have received from my connection with the Universe, I've come to understand that the use of the labels 'masculine' and 'feminine' are only human constructions, built using old language in order that we are able to describe the separated selves we think are and in relation to each other in the 3D material world.

Labels in relation to gender like this don't exist beyond the human body, because once we are out of the body or we transcend the body (even while we are still in the body), we become only energy.

All energy.

Why Not Use Other Words Then?

Living in London I have many friends who don't and will not use either masculine or feminine words to describe themselves. They especially do not want to use man or woman because it doesn't accurately reflect their experience of being human or how they connect with those labels.

And I fully support their words and own labels for themselves and others.

I decided to keep with using masculine and feminine in order to resonate with those who also resonate with these labels they have for themselves. This is not about mis-gendering or putting anyone into or out of boxes or categories.

I believe we should be and express whomever we want to be and at the same time not impose that upon others' expression of who they are.

While the world and the entire modern existence of humans is in the midst of an incredible shift into a new paradigm and level of consciousness, there are those that DO define themselves and others in the old words of masculine and feminine.

Other Ways To Describe Energies

In the spiritual world, energy in opposition is often described as polar opposites, or polarity. Think about the energetic and magnetic North and South. You know exactly what I mean when I say North and South right?

The same goes with masculine and feminine, whether you agree there should even be those words or not, you understand that their meaning is describing opposites.

If I was to use the word Yin or Yang, would you know what I meant? How about Shakti or Shiva? They are words from non-English cultures that chose words in their language to represent the opposing and at the same time complementing energies of masculine and feminine.

In the case of Yin and Yang, the concept was originally conceived in order to describe the dualistic nature of cyclical and interrelated energies of life and how they are opposing at the same time. It eventually became associated with genders but really it could mean anything where there are complimenting parts of a whole. You could apply this diagram to yourself as the whole circle but many use it to refer to themselves in relationship to another person, as if the whole is the couple.

Can you imagine describing yourself as only being half of a concept?

I prefer to think of myself as the whole shebang.

I am a whole person, not the other half of someone else.

Words help us define and describe concepts to create a perception of certain qualities or attributes.

The Soul is not so specific.

But humans, we like specific, because being specific about one fragment of the universe confirms our separation from the whole of the Oneness. Again polarity.

The Soul then becomes an abstract and intangible concept, until we define and get specific.

Being in human form is definite, its tangible, its that vs this.

Being human can only be seen in its separation (duality) from the One.

Warmest Love

Kimberley Maya